Falling madly, deeply in love with another person is a magical feeling. You want to shout it from the rooftops and let the whole world know. There are countless movies about falling in love, along with hundreds of self-help books that are guiding us in the direction. People are more than happy to share their experience of more than hard for another person. Like you could say they describe how butterflies came when they met or how they “just knew” when they saw the other person. But no one really talks about ‘falling out of love’. It is not so easy to describe and sometimes you can`t really put your finger on this feeling.
You question this emotion when it comes along. Is this just a rocky road in my relationship? Will this pass? And honestly, falling out of love isn’t so black-and-white. It could be that you two have just ended the honeymoon phase and reality has now set in. Or, you and your partner have hit a rough patch, which every relationship will likely go through. However, with that being said, there are times when a relationship has run its course, and so has the love. As despairing as that can be, it can happen. It’s better to realize this now, rather than waiting for things to change, only to grow unhappy in your relationship.
So, if you are unsure if the love is still there, here are some signs you might not be feeling it anymore:
The eyes say it all if your eyes are starting to wonder, then soon you may be out of this wandering relationship. If you are putting out of this hungry eyes every time you go out with ladies or may you just downloaded tinder just too see what`s out there-you might need to take a look at your relationship. It’s one thing to notice another attractive person, but if you’re constantly leading with your eyes, you’re leading yourself in another direction.
The butterflies have flown away
Where have all the butterflies gone? When you are no longer in love, it appears the butterflies have flown away. And I bet you sure miss them. If your partner is sending you sweet loving text messages and you don’t even feel one little flutter, there might be something in the air. And it isn’t a butterfly. It’s the possibility that you have fallen out of love.
Best friend status
If you start to realize that your one and only has become your one and only best friend, this might be a sign. It’s natural for your lover to become your BFF as well. But, if the best friend role has taken over and the boyfriend/girlfriend status is questionable, you two may be holding on to a friendship, instead of a romantic relationship. I’m not saying you should binge watch Netflix together or let out those stinky farts with one another. Just make sure there you are still in love with your partner, instead of just loving her.
Cute habits are no longer cute
Remember those cute little things your boyfriend/girlfriend used to do? Well, now those “cute” habits feel like nails on a chalkboard. Love can blind us and make us see things in a different light. So when you used to think your girlfriend`s humming was the most adorable thing was ever — now you’re holding your tongue trying not to scream at the top of your lungs. When everything your partner does is annoying and no longer cute, Houston, we have a problem.
Feel something is missing
Falling out of love is difficult to explain. It’s not easy to put this feeling into words or even put your finger on it. With that being said, you might feel one thing — that something is missing. Having this sensation of emptiness is a big sign. So, if you’re feeling that something is missing, and it’s not just your keys, it might be that you’re locked out of love.
When you are madly in love, no matter what your partner looks like, you still can’t keep your hands off them. But when you may no longer be feeling the love, you also don’t feel attracted. You find excuses to not touch each other anymore. You blame not wanting to kiss your partner on not liking PDA. When you start cringing at the thought of being intimate with your loved one, all signs point to the love being gone.
Some short points-
- Do you feel like love is slipping out of your relationship slowly and you can’t do a thing to stop it?
- Love that is neglected can take on a shade of hate and anger, and eventually take a turn for the worse.
- It can be stopped though, but when you reach a stage where you question your own love, you do need a lot of work and effort to bring the romance back in the air.
- When both of you are not in love anymore, a relationship that can easily succeed starts to become a burden of frustrations and pain.
- Ever find yourself questions your own relationship and whether you’re doing the right thing by staying a relationship that gives you no joy?
You may love hanging out with your own friends and have a nice time. But if either of you can’t spend a few hours with each other and don’t really care about communication and togetherness, there’s no hope for the relationship to survive unless both of you take the initiative to come closer.